My Everyday Mystic by Jan Puta: blog for the soul

For some of us, our red zone buttons activate and set off a five-alarm scene before we know what happened.

It doesn’t have to be that way! If you’re one of the folks caught too often in the front lines of verbal warfare and its aftermath, there’s help on the way.

Here are three easy and safe ways to help yourself through the chaos and turmoil that may happen around you.

First, be aware of what is happening inside of you because it’s all about you anyway. No one can push your buttons! No one can make you feel anyway you don’t want to feel!

People and situations seem to trigger you, but it’s your free choice to react and respond in any way you want. If you are habitually and instinctively aggressive and intolerant, then look inside and see what’s going on. Your goal here is to learn how to be patient and passive.

Second, breathe and get grounded. Cool down that hot lava screaming through your veins. Listen to the frenzy of thoughts racing through your mind. Do you hear accusations, judgments, and blaming about to leap off the tip of your tongue? Another deep breath and let it go.

What you are experiencing is not rational thinking. This is what it feels like to be under an ego attack – yours! Your ego is feeling threatened, insecure, and losing face somehow in what was just said or done by some one else. Your ego is kicking and fighting to stay on top at all costs. Like I said before, your reactivity is all about you.

Third, begin to make better conscious choices. Look at the ego language trashing around in your brain! Look at the way it’s worked up your body with adrenalin and frayed your feelings with toxic energy.

If you can safely walk away from this situation, then do that. If you need to get help to be safe or to get away safely, then call for help in anyway that works for you. You don’t need a comeback or retaliation. You don’t need to demand an explanation or an apology. Consciously choose to take the higher road of patience and passivity, compassion and kindness.

The oftener you follow these three steps, the closer you will be to raising your consciousness and spiritually evolving out of the ego trap. Can you see yourself giving this a try? How does it feel to have a plan of action? Drop a line in the response box below (or click on the comment link in Facebook) and share your thoughts with us.

Would you like to read a spiritual allegory about owning your own feelings and taking charge of your own empowerment? Go to chapter 12, “The Land of Many Labels,” in my book, Pathways: Tales for the Spiritual Seeker. You can read the first chapter online and get a feel for this spiritual guidebook at: Pathways: Tales for the Spiritual Seeker.

I’m looking forward to hearing from you.

Janice M. Puta
Author of Pathways: Tales for the Spiritual Seeker
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