My Everyday Mystic by Jan Puta: blog for the soul

“What’s a Healer for if not to fill up emptiness and patch up holes.” That comment set the crowd of unhappy and hurting citizens on the road to the Healer’s house.

Each person was missing a heart. In the Healer’s house were many shelves of broken hearts pieced back together, but not yet healed. As the spiritual allegory, “The Healer of Broken Hearts” continues, the Healer teaches them how to mend their hearts.

Now some of you may say, “That makes for a good story, but where am I going to find a Healer who can help me heal my broken heart?”

That may be a lot easier than you think. Let’s start with these three steps:

1. Feel the empty place inside of you. Get in touch with your feelings. Allow yourself to feel the emptiness and the sadness, the loneliness and the fear, the anger and despair if and when it is there. Name it and own it with awareness – no shame, no blame, no judgment. Just be aware of it for what it is.

2. Ask for help from a healer. This may be a minister or a counselor. Consider a best friend or a spiritual teacher. Work with a support group or a network you’re comfortable with. Practice sitting still in meditation, going within, and walking hand in hand with your Higher Self or Spirit. Anyone who can help lead you through the darkness to the other side can be a healer for you, even yourself.

3. Mend your own heart. Before you can be husband or wife, brother or sister, son or daughter, mother or father, you’ve first got to be whole in yourself. Give yourself permission to forgive yourself for anything you’ve done or said that hurt someone else. Give yourself permission to forgive yourself for any good left undone or unsaid.

Review each of the feelings you named in step #1 and now let them go, knowing that you no longer choose to feel that way. Make a conscious choice to own the opposite of each negative feeling like this:

• “I give myself permission to let go of all my emptiness. I now choose to love and approve of myself.”
• “I give myself permission to let go of all my sadness. I now choose to count the blessings I do have and to feel grateful and fortunate for them.”
• “I give myself permission to let go of all my loneliness. I now choose to remember that I am part of a Divine Plan and came here to make a contribution that no one else can make exactly as I can.”
• “I give myself permission to let go of all my fear. I now choose to trust that I am safe, provided for, and wonderfully guided by an Infinite Wisdom Who has a plan and purpose for me.”
• “I give myself permission to let go of all my anger. I now choose to be compassionate and nonjudgmental, forgiving and patient with others as well as with myself.”
• “I give myself permission to let go of all my despair. I now choose to believe that I get to make my own life experiences and I want to always choose what is kind, peaceful, and loving for myself and for others.”

As the Healer said in the story, “From the sadness in your eyes, I can tell that you are missing your hearts. Without a heart, no one can life a happy life.” The oftener you follow these three ways of mending your own heart, the quicker you will learn how to heal yourself and to be a healer for others.

Drop us a line and share your thoughts about how you find healing for yourself. Who are the healers in your life? How have you been a healer for some one else?

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I’m looking forward to hearing from you.

Janice M. Puta
Author of Pathways: Tales for the Spiritual Seeker
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